Jul 20, 2021
When you really dig into the inner work process, the first
place to begin is to stop worshipping and praying at the altar of
perpetual growth and ascension. We are obsessed. We are addicted.
We are fixated on and relient on this need to be special and this
need to grow and this denies us the experience of a kind of falling
apart. No man wants to fall apart and come into contact with the
realities of what his grief might have to teach him. The fact is
that when we really get present to it, what we're actually afraid
of is that we don't know what that's going to look like. We are
terrified of what will happen on the other side of not worshipping
the 'God of Growth' and beginning to allow the wisdom of this grief
to enter. - Connor Beaton
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Wellness Force Radio Episode 406
TEDx Speaker and the Founder of ManTalks, Connor
Beaton, shares his own journey of coming back from rock bottom,
the healing power of shadow work, how men can begin the process of
fathering their inner child, and why the war of the sexes is
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Listen To Episode 406 As Connor
[1:30] Coming Back From Rock Bottom
[15:00] Pain Has Its Own Wisdom
How embracing the emotional pain during his 10-Day Vision Quest
allowed Josh to
heal past wounds he had carried for decades.
The fact that our body is always trying to communicate with us
at all times.
Connor's experience really tuning into his pain for the first
time and see what it was doing to those that he loved the
- What steps men can take to begin unpacking and exploring their
emotions and pain.
Why we are obsessed and relient on this need to be special and
this need to grow but it denies us the experience of falling apart
The fear Connor had that his life would dismantle should he
allow himself to feel his pain and listen to his grief.
Questions to begin asking yourself including, 'What have you
been denying about in your life?'
What it means to go "into the cave" and experience the dark
night of the soul that will ultimately lead you on your Hero's Journey
[30:30] Shadow Work & Self Healing
Breaking down the keys to shadow work
and begin the self
How to pay attention to how you react and why that response is
so important to understanding your shadow and where you go when you
The benefits of keeping a journal of what you react to, how
you reacted, and what narrative runs through your mind when the
Unpacking the differences between responding from the
parasympathetic and the sympathetic nervous systems
that to your fight, fight, or freeze response.
Exploring capital "T" and lower case "t" trauma
for men especially if
they have experienced sexual trauma, physical abuse, or a family
member with a mental health illness.
Why men who have been abused either have a "fawn" response
where they freeze or they people please
because it is safer for
Unpacking the co-dependent saying "Happy wife, happy life" and
how it keeps people back from doing the real inner work
Why we, and especially men, over rely on our intellectual
understanding of things but struggle with intuition and emotions in
Conner's decision to not call it therapy
but training because men
are missing skill sets that they actually need in order to have
fully functional relationships, careers, health, romantic
relationships, and self fulfillment.
What past narratives Connor had to unlearn so that he could
learn new trainings such as the arts of self discipline
[44:30] How To Begin The Shadow Work
Exploring the law of reciprocity
and how it relates
to things happening for us instead of to us.
Why he believes that in some way karma
is what we attract because
we believe we deserve it.
How our pain unconsciously attracts
what we don't want in
life and that's why we should be paying attention to what it's
Why the shadow work is not a golden bullet for automic healing
but it is an important part of the process.
The importance of easing into doing the shadow work by first
realizing what areas of your life you are avoiding.
A shadow work game Connor would play with himself by catching
himself whenever he lied to others and then autocorrect that
What he believes shadow work is in 2021 and why so many people
are abusing the word and practice.
How Carl Jung came up with the concept of the shadow self and
Connor's own experience with shadow work and working with
parts of himself that he was hiding from others.
How Connor helps people with addiction
and the 12- step
comes into place
with the process of healing from addiction.
[57:30] The War Of The Sexes Is Over
Power Quotes From The
What Inner Work Really Looks Like
"Let go of your need to find any kind of golden gun or silver
bullet. When men enter this work, they think, 'Okay, I'm going to
work on my shadow; I'm going to do shadow work,' or 'I'm going to
go to therapy, I'm going to get a therapist.' They do so almost
always from the place of: I just want that one ultimate
equation that's going to liberate me so I can get away from
this. They want to make it as pragmatic as possible but you
know, you're entering into territory that may not work like that
and you have have to consider that. Consider that what got you into
the dysfunction that you have been in may not be the path that is
going to get you out of it. That perhaps, you're going to have to
learn a very different, equally valuable lesson when you begin the
real inner work." - Connor Beaton
Facing Your Shadow
"Carl Jung's work focused on facing the shadow; facing the parts
of you that you have been rejecting and hiding and avoiding. Start
there to begin your inner work journey and ask, 'What have I been
rejecting about myself? What have I been avoiding? What have I been
denying about myself and lying about in my life?' Start there by
working on those aspects because when we do, we begin to reveal
that parts of ourselves that we have hidden from the people that we
love and then we wonder why we don't feel like they really know
...So, begin with the things that you have been neglecting about
who you are or begin with the parts that you have been rejecting of
what your life actually looks like. For some men this is very
challenging because it means that they have to come into contact
with the truth that maybe they're not as happy and things aren't as
perfect as they had been selling to the world for
years." - Connor Beaton
How To Father Your Inner Child
"The work that we do in many ways is about learning how to
father ourselves as men. That we stop offloading the responsibility
of our wellness, of our strength, of our confidence, of our
wellbeing onto other people because the truth is, if we're really
honest, there's a lot of men out there who have no idea how to tend
to the wounded child that they've been carrying around for years.
Where has he gone? If you've been abused as a child, where did that
child go? Nowhere; he's in you - he is you and if you don't know
how to take care of him, he's going to cause havoc in your life. If
you don't know how to parent him and father him, he's going to
cause havoc if you become a father." - Connor
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About Connor Beaton
Connor Beaton,the founder of
ManTalks. He was raised to believe that being a man
meant you had to follow certain rules. The most notable one is like
the first rule of Fight Club: don’t talk about it. For most of his
life, he believed all men had the same rule. Shut up and deal with
it. Man up.
Over the next few years, he learned to take his trauma, shame,
and denial—all the shadowy parts of himself—and integrate them. He
spent thousands of hours learning and training. He consulted
psychologists, historians, neurologists, and authors. Connor
trained for years under mentors and leaders in Jungian psychology,
somatic therapy, and holotropic breathwork. He even apprenticed
under a disciple of Carl Jung himself.
In 2014, Connor founded ManTalks as a grassroots movement to
further the cause: giving men the tools and training to create a
truly self-led life.
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