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Wellness Force Radio | Discovering Physical & Emotional Intelligence To Live Life Well

Wellness Force Radio | Discovering Physical & Emotional Intelligence To Help Men & Women Live Life Well. Your host, Josh Trent, spotlights ​world class experts in the fields of physical and emotional intelligence, mindset, behavior change, supplementation, nutrition, health, wellness, fitness, and technology that empower you with actionable steps for your wellness journey. After struggling with anxiety, depression, and weight gain in adolescence, in 2004 Josh let go of over 75 pounds and transformed his life by becoming a health and fitness professional that would coach over 12,000 sessions and evolve into one of the top wellness influencers on iTunes. In this podcast together, we discover the connections between our emotions and healthy habits to live our best life and enjoy the process. Every week, you'll learn from exceptional people who have dedicated their lives to being a positive force for our global collective. Deeper topics include: Physical intelligence, emotional intelligence, behavior change, wellness, behavioral psychology, habits, mindset, fitness, health, strength training, organic supplementation, bio-hacking, body transformation, psychedelics, digital health, quantified self, mHealth, wearable technology and more.
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Aug 30, 2016

 "The true spiritual practice is learning to love no matter what. Not when everything is perfect. Not when you feel like loving. This is the layer that we must peel in order to access our soul." - Kute Blackson 

On this week’s podcast, best-selling author, speaker, and transformational teacher, Kute Blackson, shares how we can forgive and let go by observing who we are through listening to what our emotions are telling us.

Forgiving and letting go of the past can be two of the hardest things a person may face during their lifetime. Sharing his own personal story of the relationship with his father and how he came the USA, Kute explains how we can be brave and allow our internal compass on the wellness journey can guide us through life.

How To Live Life Itself As Your Spiritual Practice 

Living your life means making your own decisions and taking control.

To help us along our wellness journey, look for signs that a path is right for us. This will allow us to be true to ourselves in a way that the universe supports us each stop of the way.

If you feel that a path is not right for you, listen to that gut feeling. Maybe your mind is telling you one thing, but your emotions and feelings are telling you something completely different.

Be Willing To Tell The Truth

"When we live in alignment, then the universe will support us, but it may not look how we always think it will."- Kute Blackson

 We have to be willing to by true to ourselves and we can feel that truth in our hearts. Maybe a current job isn't lined up with our morals or beliefs? Maybe we're in a relationship with the wrong person?

At a point in Kute's life, he was following his father's footsteps to take his role, but then he realized that this path was not for him. Kute spent a lot of time observing his thoughts and emotions. He eventually realized that his life was supposed to take him on a different wellness journey.

This wouldn't be the first time that this thought process allowed Kute to come to a revelation of what his mind and body were telling him. With this practice, Kute is continuously learning to let go and accept what path is next for him to follow.

When The Path Is Difficult

Following your path can be so difficult with many obstacles, struggles, and tests. However, just like they did for Kute, these moments prepare us for the people that we should be.

Part of letting go is just allowing yourself to trusting each step of the journey. If we can trust, life will give us what our soul most needs the most right at the very moment in which we need it.

Letting Go of Worry

Why worry so much? Most of the time, we're afraid of what our destiny truly is, and we're afraid that we have to control everything. To let go of worry, we first have to be willing to surrender and trust the process.

When we're children, we're free to be just as we are and we trust right away and express ourselves however we want because we're unconditioned. But as we grow older, we become conditioned. Part of early-life conditioning is believing that we're not free and this keeps us from trusting other people and our own authentic voice.

Breaking Conditioned Responses

Breaking conditioned responses begins once we've taken the honest emotional inventory within ourselves. Conditioning tells us that we're a certain persona and so we try to figure out who we should be. This helps us avoid pain because we feel validated by society because our persona has been accepted.

But we cannot truly break condition responses until we've accepted ourselves.

Part of accepting ourselves is observing our thoughts and emotions. 

When we observe ourselves, we begin to stop judging ourselves. And as we practice being the observer, we can break the reinforcements of the previous negative thoughts about who we really are.

"We have over 65,000 thoughts a day and most are the same as yesterday. Your thoughts are not real, your thoughts are just energy. Your thoughts aren't the issue. The importance you give your thoughts is the real issue." - Kute Blackson 

Win Two Tickets To Kute's LIVE Event

Kute was generous to Wellness Force, and he’s giving away two advanced tickets to his “Man Breakthrough Experience” October 14th in Los Angeles.

Here are the details how you can enter to win and work with Kute in person LIVE October 14th, 2016 in Los Angeles:

Until September 30th, 2016, post a picture that means something to you about your deepest purpose and living life fully in alignment with what you love. Add the  hashtag #KuteBlackson and tag @wellnessforce on Instagram to enter. 

If you are a woman that has read the books, been to the seminars, and have the information but are still frustrated that you keep attracting the same types of men that aren't right for you or don't really see who you are, then this is the event for you.

If you are tired of repeating the same old patterns of self sabotage that destroy your relationships with men and are finally ready to deal with the inner blocks that are causing you suffering. - The seminar is all about decoding men and transforming the hidden blocks that keep you from attracting the love you deserve. 

About Kute Blackson

Kute Blackson is an utterly unique visionary in the world of human potential. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s life work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom.

Kute’s own background and experience lay out the blueprint for his approach to liberating others, setting their gifts and greatness free. Born in Ghana, West Africa, his multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and Ghanaian father, raised in London, and on 4 different continents defies all stereotype.

The son of a revered spiritual leader, Kute was speaking to his fatherʼs congregations, in more than 300 churches, by the age of 8. At the age of 14, he was ordained into his fatherʼs ministry and groomed to carry on the familyʼs spiritual legacy. But his heartʼs truth drew him to separate from his fatherʼs ministry and come to Los Angeles in 1995.

Resources Mentioned In This Episode

What You'll Hear On The Show

3:10  About Kute Blackson

5:15  Kute shares a few things we don"t know about him

6:30  Kute shares the meaning behind his message: "The true spiritual practice is for us to all open our hearts and share what's inside."

10:45  More of Kute's spiritual background and being a citizen of the world

14:30  How Kute came to love reading so much that he's read over 800 books so far in his lifetime.

16:50 Why we should be willing to tell the truth to ourselves.

18:00  How do you feel that your space in your family has shaped your life?

21:00  What was the moment of change in your life when you were going though a lot of pain?

24:00 Kute's epiphany from feeling so much pain

26:30  Kute's experience walking the Camino de Santiago in Spain

31:20  Win a Wellness Bundle from Perfect Supplements!

32:30  How do we grow trust and overcome past events in our lives?

39:45 How do we make the connection to knowing that our thoughts aren't real and they're just energy?

42:55 Question from Facebook: How would you recommend I stop carry what my dad thinks about my passion?

46:20  Facebook:  What's Kute's daily habits and things to do to let go of old patterns?

48:40  Do you see a common thread among clients? Anything common that holds them back form letting go?

51:25  Do we change with love and compassion?

53:25  How do we get in touch with our fears and don't allow it to control us?

58:50  Have you ever done an early exploration of silence to get in touch with fear?

1:00:55  7 for 7 round: Josh asks Kute 7 fast questions

1:09:00 Win two tickets to Kute Blackson's live event, The Man Breakthrough Experience, on October 14 in Los Angeles, California.

 

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Aug 23, 2016
Can a lack of integrity derail weight loss? What does the avoidance and aggression cycle mean for those on the path of better health?
 
Welcome to a very special encore episode for this week's show! 
  
Today's special guest, David Zappasodi, comes on the show to discuss his powerful book, Immovable Heart Unstoppable Mind. Today’s show is the perfect fit for us, because we’re talking about the most important cornerstone for any wellness program, and that is mindset. 
 
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Immovable Heart Unstoppable Mind

David has a degree in Exercise Physiology from West Chester University of Pennsylvania. In his twenty years in the health and fitness industry, David has been a personal trainer, metabolic typing practitioner, boot-camp instructor, martial arts teacher, and public speaker on healthy living. He also founded a functional fitness and nutrition center in San Diego, and operated it for 9 years, during which time he was extensively featured on Fox News, KUSI TV News, and on network and local television and radio programs throughout California.
 

Weight Loss & Humanity

More important than any of his credentials, however, David has a deep faith in the beauty and greatness of humanity, and is very determined to help others to see and embody the greatness within themselves. Through this faith and determination, he has inspired and guided many people to transform their lives throughout his career.
 
David is the international best selling author of Immovable Heart Unstoppable Mind - A personal guide to the 6 essential practices for living a healthy and fulfilling life.
 

6 Essential Practices For Living A Healthy & Fulfilling Life

 

Listen as David uncovers how over 20 years of coaching experience lead him to create The most powerful practices for a healthy and fulfilling life, including: 
 
 
  • Generosity - Helps us to let go of the past and release obstructions without focusing on them. Generosity makes our goals more powerful by giving them a greater purpose than our own self interest, and brings greater abundance into our lives.
  • Integrity - Helps us to not create new obstructions that impede our progress. It allows us to learn lessons about the intensity and frequency of our vicious cycles, and the negative consequences that we experience because of them. It also brings more intimacy and connection into our lives.
  • Patience - Helps us to not take our current obstructions and blow them out of proportion, making them even bigger barriers to progress. In fact,lack of patience does the opposite of progress– it turns our mountains into molehills. Brings more growth and transformation into our lives.
  • Inspired Action - Helps us to cultivate more of what we really want in our lives, rather than trying to move us away from what we don't want. It also brings more joy and fulfillment into our lives.
  • Mindfulness - Helps to free us from attachments that keep us feeling stuck in life. It is the inner essence and the common thread of all of the previous practices, and as necessary in order for them to be powerful and effective. It also allows us to experience true freedom.
  • Commitment - It is the outer container that gives shape and direction to all the previous practices. It also gives us the ability to stick with the other practices long enough for them to blossom and have a noticeable effect on our lives.

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Aug 16, 2016

"This is not like any other nutrition program you've ever stumbled across. You have to think about it differently in terms of it being just one part of a lifelong cycle." - Melissa Hartwig

 

Pushing Your Reset Button With Your Health, Habits, & Relationship With Food

On this week's podcast, you’ll learn from an exceptional woman who has dedicated her life to driving real transformations in physical and emotional wellness. In this hour, together we’ll discover the connections between your emotions and healthy habits to live your best life and enjoy the process.

Sparking real, sustainable transformation and creating food freedom begins when we do the emotional inventory with ourselves. This can be a tricky process when starting out, especially when taking the honest look at how we're showing up in our relationship with food is the only way through.

But there's science behind why we get stuck, and how we can change. It happens when we're hungry and open to the right answers. 

As Melissa writes in her first book, It Starts With Food:

 

"Ancient signals in a modern world: Food scientists have engineered chemicals in processed foods that light up the reward centers in the brain for a different reason than nature intended- not because they provide vital nutrition, but because they are scientifically designed to stimulate our tastes buds." 

 

About Melissa Hartwig

Melissa Hartwig is a Certified Sports Nutritionist who specializes in helping people change their relationship with food and create life-long, healthy habits. She is the co-creator of the original Whole30 program, the New York Times bestselling author of The Whole30 and It Starts With Food. Melissa has been featured by Dr. Oz, Good Morning America, the Wall Street Journal, Details, Shape, Outside, and SELF.

Melissa has also presented more than 150 health and nutrition seminars worldwide, and provides support to more than 1.5 million people a month through the Whole30 website.

 

"We're often told that it's selfish to take care of yourself first, but I look at it as an act of radical self love. I set boundaries in my life so that I am healthy, happy and so that I flourish in my life and I have more to give to everyone else." - Melissa Hartwig

 

Melissa's New Book: Food Freedom Forever

Letting Go of Bad Habits, Guilt, and Anxiety Around Food

End the yo-yo dieting cycle… forever. Welcome to the Food Freedom plan.

Millions of people have successfully completed the groundbreaking Whole30 program and radically transformed their energy, sleep, cravings, waistline, and health. Now, Food Freedom Forever offers real solutions for anyone stuck in the exhausting cycle of yo-yo dieting and the resulting stress, weight gain, uncontrollable cravings, and health complaints. In her newest book, best-selling author Melissa Hartwig defines true “food freedom” as being in control of the food you eat, instead of food controlling you.

 

quotatoin-marksFood Freedom Forever gives you everything you need for achieving dietary success, for today and for the rest of your healthy life. Melissa Hartwig’s information is spot on in terms of its scientific validity, and wonderfully approachable in terms of its implementation. — DAVID PERLMUTTER, MD, Author, #1 New York Times Bestseller, Grain Brain

 

Resources Mentioned In This Episode

What You'll Hear On The Show

2:00 About Melissa Hartwig

4:45 Melissa shares a few things we don"t know about her

7:45 Melissa's road to creating the Whole30 and her tipping point

9:00 Why Melissa used joy instead of struggle to launch Whole30 and it Starts With Food

10:50 The difference between west coasters vs. east coasters and their relationships with food

12:00 Melissa unpacks what the Whole3o is, how it resets the body, and who it's for

14:30 A life changing story of an older man who transformed his relationship with food by doing Whole30

17:50 Your brain on food: Melissa explains her favorite chapter of "It Starts With Food"

21:15 Melissa explains the difference between satiety and satiation

24:30 Foods with "no brakes" and gateway foods

25:29 The healing power of grass fed hydrolyzed collagen

28:30 The psychology of change model and how to change

30:16 Dealing with anxiety on the Whole30 and in your life

33:30 Melissa discusses shame spirals and her new book Food Freedom Forever

36:07 How to feel like you're enough and worthy of being healthy, lean, athletic and fully present

40:16 Melissa and Josh discuss wearables and using trackers for obligers and upholders

41:20 Why Josh started and hosts Wellness Force Radio

45:51 Being authentic, intuitively vulnerable, and empowering on social media with the Whole30

46:46 7 for 7 round: Josh asks Melissa 7 fast questions

55:13 Win a copy of It Starts With Food and Whole30

 

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Aug 8, 2016

"Food is what you are, and you are what you eat. Food serves multiple purposes. On one hand, it's to nourish your body with physical things that it needs, but you can also use food to soothe emotions, avoid emotions, as entertainment, or when you feel sad. It allows for a certain degree of emotional manipulation." - Tony Federico

 

Food is an important part of our everyday life, but sometimes we allow unhealthy, processed foods to manipulate our bodies' health and emotions. Unfortunately, eating healthy is not always an easy switch to make with big multinational corporations selling and promoting foods everywhere we look.

However, we have the ultimate power to make the decision to decide what we eat every day. Take a moment look inside yourself and ask if your relationship with food is a healthy one. It's okay to admit that it's not a healthy relationship and that you're ready for a change in your life.

On this week's podcast, host of the Paleo Magazine Radio podcast, Tony Federico, shares with us how he overcame an unhealthy relationship with food and how making a goal to live a more Paleolithic lifestyle has transformed his body and his life.

How To Create A Healthy Relationship With Food

As humans that operate from the reptilian brain, what do we ultimately need to thrive?

We need real food.

Take a moment to think about where our ancestors found their source of food. It wasn't from the processed food section from the grocery store, but from real foods like fruits, nits, seeds, vegetables and different meats.

If you are what you eat, then your relationship with food can say a lot about whether you are tuned in with your body or not.

Tony himself struggled for quite some time to create a healthy relationship with food. At one point, he found himself in a cycle of doing unhealthy amounts of exercise and eating processed foods that he believed to be healthy. In looking back on his lifestyle, Tony discusses on the show how his obsession of eating healthy food was called Orthorexia nervosa before it even existed.

To create a healthy relationship with food, Tony shares how we first get to understand how it helps our body. How all of natural foods' nutrients, vitamins, and more give you the energy and strength to live a healthy life each day.

Feeding Yourself From A Place of Love & Abundance

"Maybe my body is not the enemy. Maybe I can work with this thing if I understand it."- Tony Federico on the Paleo Diet 

What does your life balance look like right now? Maybe the mix includes:

But is everything balanced evenly? What areas do you dedicate your time to the most? Which areas are healthy and which are unhealthy?

If your health and nutrition are not at the best place that they can be, you may have to change your daily nutrition. For Tony, going Paleo helped him to rethink the benefits of food and a healthy lifestyle.

To give your body the love and abundance that it needs to stay healthy, real food can help give you the right mindset and positive energy that you need in your life. If you're eating unhealthy, it can throw you off balance in all six areas of your life.

Reach Your Goals With Reverse Engineering

One method to help you complete a goal is to do it via "reverse engineering."

Reverse engineering goals is when you pick a specific goal and decide what types of systems, people, and environment you can put into place to help you reach that goal.

As part of the goal, you need to have a base number, but it's very important that you have zero judgement towards that number. For example, if you want to lose 20 pounds and your base start number is 200 pounds. Don't judge that number because it will only lead to negative thinking. Instead, use it to help you see the results that you want.

Next, do your homework to start planning and creating a strategy. Be responsible and have the will and commitment to do it. Even if your plan isn't working,  think about what can you do to change it so that it does work? The slightest tweak can help you get to the goal that you want to complete if you have the willpower to complete it.

More About Tony Federico

Tony is the host of the Paleo Magazine Radio podcast, author of an eBook audio program deep dish, "Paleo Grilling: A Modern Caveman's Guide to Cooking with Fire", and Cofounder of Powerful PT, an innovative information resource for Fitness Professionals. He has appeared on numerous local and national television and radio broadcasts and regularly hosts healthy cooking workshops and informational lectures. He is also a speaker full-time Personal Trainer and Wellness Consultant who lives in Jacksonville Florida with his wife Jamie.

What You'll Hear On The Show

0:00  Wellness Force Opening

3:30  What's something fun that most people don't know about you?

4:30  What tragedy happened in your life to lead you to Paleo and to have this career as an author, speaker, and podcast host?

8:00  What was your experience with everything from having relationships to having your thyroid removed,  experiencing restless leg syndrome, and having ADD tendencies?

14:20 What made you choose Paleo and why do you think it was the right decision for you?

19:30  What has been the most transformational piece by going Paleo?

20:55  What do you do on a regular basis to grow?  How can you follow a more Paleolithic lifestyle over a Modern one with all the technology that we have available to us?

23:30  Tell us about Deep Dish: What's it all about and why did you write this book?

35:50  Who is your Deep Dish for?

38:30  How does technology affect your health and wellness? How does it relate to ancestral health?

41:40  How do you make a goal happen?

45:20  7 for 7 questions

59:05  Wellness Force Closing

Listen To Tony Share

  • His personal experience and journey with health, fitness, and Paleo.
  • What his childhood was like and important moments during that time.
  • How to set goals with reverse engineering methods
  • How he came to have a healthy relationship with food and overcome his Orthoexia nervosa.
  • How to be resilient and how to create a strategy for it.
  • Why we should practice more love and showing compassion to others.
  • What technology Tony uses including a FitBit and a stand-up desk to enhance his daily wellness.
  • What his book, Deep Dish, is all about.
  • The evolution of food.
  • What we need a daily basis to grow.

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Aug 2, 2016

"The quality of our sex life is a direct reflection of our internal health."-Bob Schwenkler 

On this week's podcast, trained life coaches and founders of Sex the Podcast, Natalie Vartanian and Bob Schwenkler, join me to talk about relationships, sex, and wellness.

Since joining forces as a power couple in 2015, Natalie and Bob have been the secret sexual weapon for successful men from all walks of life. They’ve helped many people from former Army Sniper Instructors, Online Marketing Experts, to Corporate Airline Pilots from across 3 continents unlock the next level of joy and confidence in their sex lives and relationships.

Meeting someone new and beginning a romantic relationship with them can create one of the most exhilarating feelings that you will experience during your lifetime. However, your emotional wellness plays a huge part in not only your health and fitness, but also your sex life. Past relationships and experiences can really effect new relationships, who you are, and who you want to become.

Each time you begin a new relationship with someone, it's important to address anything that's going on with yourself.

If you're emotionally unsteady because you have bottled up feelings of anger, sadness, and trauma on the inside, not only will it show up in your daily fitness and wellness health, but in your personal relationships and sex life as well.

To have a healthy sex life, you need to be healthy on the inside by addressing any hidden issues or baggage that you may be carrying with you. 

 

How to Recognize and Share Your Personal Feelings

In a relationship, it's important to recognize how you feel and not to ignore those feelings. Ask yourself, what do you want in a relationship? What do you want for your sex life? What do you want for your career and the rest of your life?

For you to be able to recognize your feelings and open up to your partner about your wants and desires, you should first become intimate with yourself. You can do this by giving yourself self-care and self-love. 

Begin by slowing down and taking a moment to understand what is going on with you. Try to be in the present and recognize what emotions you're feeling right now. Come back to yourself and be honest with what you want and need.

Learn To Understand Your Partner's Love Language

When you understand yourself better, you can learn to listen to your partner better as well. However, miscommunication or no communication can still happen throughout a relationship. Fortunately, coaches like Natalie and Bob can help you can fix that by using strategies and tools to help open up and improve communication with your partner. 

These communication tools can help you both to understand each other's love language, what your desires are, and how you can recreate something in your relationship. 

To understand your partner's love language, it may mean unpacking any baggage and talking about issues that you haven't even discussed about in the past.

How to Get Out Of A Shame Spiral

Something that can keep us back from having a fulfilling relationship and sex life is the shame that we feel for ourselves. This shame spiral can happen to us when we don't feel good in our own bodies or the person that we are.

If you're feeling shameful, it could be happening because you're in a constant pattern of avoidance. This pattern occurs when we're stuck in an unhealthy routine that doesn't allow us to find out what's really going on with ourselves.

This pattern of avoidance could include having lots of unfulfilling sex, drinking, working a lot, spending time on social media, or even just rational thinking.  Rational thinking mode is a thought addiction and surprisingly enough, over-thinking will keep you from having connected, fulfilling relationships.

To have a better sex life, you should look deep inside yourself and have an internal inquiry. Ask yourself what's holding you back from having great sex and even other experiences such as an amazing life or career? 

To help you truly escape this shame spiral and begin having fulfilling relationships and great sex, reach out to sources of support and help if you must do so.

Don't Be Afraid To Reach Out For Help

If you're struggling with your emotions and your shame spiral is keeping you from connecting with your partner, don't be afraid to reach out for help. 

Because we're only human, we can't take this journey all by ourselves. Talk to close friends about what you're going through and maybe they've been through the same obstacles. Ask someone to be your accountability partner to help hold you responsible for the goals that you want to accomplish.

Spend time with like-minded people in person or virtually online with different communities. Seek professional help by reaching out to therapy groups such as the ManKind Project or life coaches like Natalie and Bob. They can give you the support, strategy, and the tools that you need to help you live a fulfilling sex life with your partner.

 

"Do the thing and you'll have the power."-Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

More About Natalie Vartanian

For the past 6 years Natalie Vartanian has worked with women from across 5 continents to help them get the sex lives and relationships they want.

As a featured writer on Elephant Journal and Good Men Project her love and relationship blog posts have gone viral to gain tens of thousands of shares.

She is the creator of The Virtual Love Course and has helped hundreds of single women believe in love again and effortlessly attract the partner of their dreams.

More About Bob Schwenkler

As The Coach for High Achieving Sensitive Men Bob Schwenkler helps men access more love, power, and freedom in every area of their lives.

His writing has been featured on sites such as The Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, and the Good Men Project.

He is the creator of Advanced Sexual Stamina for Men, leads internationally based men’s retreats as a Sex and Intimacy Expert, and has worked privately with clients from the US, Europe, and Australia.

What You'll Hear On The Show

0:00  Wellness Force Opening with Josh

2:05  Introduction to Natalie Vartanian and Bob Schwenkler

6:00 What do women truly want in a relationship?

7:05  What do men truly want in a relationship?

8:20  What is Natalie and Bob? What are you all about?

8:40  What led you both towards becoming relationship coaches?

11:40  What is the link between wellness and a healthy sex life?

13:00  How did your professional relationship change after your personal, romantic relationship break up?

15:40  What happens when you have different commitments for your work instead of your relationship? What does that mean for your intimacy levels in a relationship?

17:40  Question for Natalie: Any stories of success with clients who have broken through the limitations of intimacy and self love/care?

19:50  Question for Bob: Do you have a client with a success story that has really made you proud of them?

22:25  Question for Natalie: What is it like for you to help couples rekindle their intimacy and passion?

24:00 How can a man create intimacy within himself?

25:00 How do I get more intimate with myself before beginning a new relationship?

26:50 How does a woman (whether in a relationship or not) get in touch with herself and her intimacy.

29:00  As a relationship coach, has there been anything that you've done to help you create healthy boundaries so that you can focus on self-care? What are your tips for women and men?

31:00  How can males create healthy boundaries and focus on self-care?

32:50 What holds people back from being sexually fulfilled?

35:45  What makes men not feel sexually confident?

37:20  How do we recognize "shame" and how can we push through a shame spiral?

41:10 What is biologically different about men and women as far as their wants and desires?

43:35  What can do from a creation/solution standpoint for someone like a mom who wants to create more intimacy in her life.

46:05  Why don't people ask others for what they want in a relationship?

47:55  What can men do to break through their fear of intimacy? 

52:30  7 Fast for 7 Questions

59:30 Wellness Force Episode Closing with Josh

Resources Mentioned In The Show

Listen To Natalie and Bob Share

  • How to address your emotions.
  • What to do if you feel shameful.
  • How to address the baggage that you'll bring to a new relationship.
  • How to create open communication with your partner.
  • What men and women want in a relationship.
  • How men and women approach intimacy and sex.
  • How to become intimate with yourself through self care and love.
  • Why it's good to seek support to improve your sex life.
  • What is a pattern of avoidance and how to stop it.
  • How to understand your partner's love language.

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