Sep 29, 2020
Until we understand the real differences in what compels our
behavior, especially under stress, we'll keep bringing out the
worst in each other. And never experience the real beauty of both
men and women. - Alison Armstrong
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Wellness Force Radio Episode 364
Author, Educator, Founder of PAX Programs, and Creator of the
widely acclaimed Understanding Men
and Understanding
Women transformational online series, Alison Armstrong, unpacks the
core differences between women and men, explains The Tunnel concept
that we sometimes face on our way to self-actualization, what the
hunting-operating mode actually is and why women can find it
confusing plus what sex actually means for men and women on both
biological and psychological levels.
How can we love one
another more? How can we give each other the space, emotional
bandwidth, and really just the special care that all of us deserve
as men and women?
By the end of this
podcast, men and
women will be able
to understand both themselves and one another
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Listen To Episode 364 As Alison
Armstrong Uncovers:
[1:30] The Core Difference Between Men & Women
- ION*Biome
- PAX Programs
- Alison Armstrong
- Understanding
Men
- Understanding
Women
- The Queen's
Code
- Keys to the
Kingdom
- Never Be Ignored by a
Man Again
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Unpacking the core, fundamental difference between men and
women including how we lovingly (or unlovingly)
trigger each
other.
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Why women search for the answer to know how they can get a man
to do something or to stop doing something.
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The importance of getting
curious
about why a person does or doesn't do something in the first
place.
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Topics that come up a lot during Josh's Men's Group including
specifically conflict and the
ego.
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Our understanding of
identity and
how it can flex depending on the scenarios we experience every
day.
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Why we all have an identity that is associated with our gender
and ethnicity.
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What women think it means to be a woman and why it's so
layered for them.
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Exploring the ancient
instincts we
have installed within the body.
[17:00] Unpacking The Instincts We Already Have Embodied
[22:00] The Hunting-Operating Mode
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Why men and women both take things so personally from their
relationships with one
another.
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Unpacking the eras of male-female relationships: emotionally
unavailable, unhealthy, and
narcissism.
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Why neither person in a relationship can provide for the other
when they are being attacked or have to protect.
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The protect mode that men are in right now during
COVID-19 as
they seek to keep their loved ones safe.
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Why she became interested in studying men: to find out why she
kept bringing out the worst in them which turned out to be by
attacking them.
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The experience she had as a teenager that she would label as
date-rape.
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Her mission to keep men off-balance as much as possible
through her intellect, humor, or
sexuality so
that they could not attack her.
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Lessons that she had to learn on her own about men including
that there is an innocence about them.
[29:00] What Sex Means For Women & Men
[31:00] What If You Can't Actually Damage a Human?
- Her mission from a spirit-centered place to help people reach a
healthy place of higher-level emotions on
the Emotional Ladder.
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The search to figure out what the mechanism in a human being
is that causes us to
feel hurt,
experience being disrespected, and create all of the conclusions
about ourselves and others.
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Why she began questioning whether or not humans can actually
be "damaged."
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What steps we can take to channel, release, and restore our
integrity
and
dignity.
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Different ways women say, 'No,' without ever actually saying
the word.
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The call she felt to help heal the world as a follower of
God's
work.
[39:30] The Road To Self-Actualization
- Her first experience at 19 participating in Actualizations with
Stewart Emery.
- Actualizations by Stewart
Emery
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What it was like for her to lead groups and create programs as
young as 20 years of age.
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The
positive
impact that happened because she was not seen as "a type of
person" but noticed for her growth and potential at work.
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Unpacking the exercise, An Impossible Promise, that will help
you have an extraordinary life.
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Why avoiding failure is one of the most potent and destructive
human
instincts that we have.
[46:00] The Ability To Dwell In Love
[57:00] What Would Make It Worth It?
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How the male brain changes throughout their
life cycle
including the rewiring during their 50s and 60s.
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The identity struggles men go through as they age and begin to
decrease their
testosterone levels.
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One of the biggest differences between men and women: what
they consider "worth it" during their lifetimes.
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How to change your
mindset on
something by not asking, "Is it worth it?" to "What would make it
worth it?"
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Flipping the script on other questions for women and asking
yourself, "How does he love me?" instead of "Does he love
me?"
[1:02:00] Exploring 'The Tunnel' & Finding One's Purpose
Again
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Exploring 'The Tunnel' in the men's Stages of Development: How
a man will know if he is in the tunnel and how his
partner can
support him.
- Amazing
Development of Men 2nd Edition
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Why The Tunnel is something that we all go through in life on
our way to
self-actualization.
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What words of wisdom she would give to someone whose mission
and
purpose are
clear but they don't give him the same feeling of reward
anymore.
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Why we find it so hard to let go of
negative
emotions when we're experiencing them but welcoming them
instead of pushing can change all of that.
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What people who have gone through or are going through The
Tunnel can teach us about life and love.
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What lessons she was gifted with when her husband, Greg,
passed away.
[1:18:00] A Date With Destiny
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Her experience participating at Tony Robbins' event, Date with
Destiny.
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An exercise from Date with Destiny where you look at one of
your
life events
from the eyes of God and what she learned about Greg's death.
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How she has taken for granted what everyone earns for: being
accepted, adored, and desired by someone you admire.
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Her experience realizing that she had lost her
compassion
for single men and women when she lost her husband.
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The other ways of being that her late husband, Greg, was
always called to take on.
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Power Quotes From The
Show
What Women Don't Know About Men
"Women assume that men are doing everything from a position of
power and that they're abusing that power. But women don't know how
much men experience being at the effect of us, how much men
actually do for us, and how much a man will do to make a woman
happy. A man is miserable if he can't make a woman happy. If she's
not happy, then he thinks that he's not good enough and he takes it
extremely personally. Men need to realize that 95% of a woman being
happy is up to her; it's not up to them." - Alison
Armstrong
The Hierarchy Of Male Instincts
"I have lived through many eras as a woman and having studied
men. I have witnessed the era of 'emotionally unavailable men,'
'unhealthy men,' and now we're in the era of narcissists. But we
have to hold up now; narcissism is what you get accused of when you
have all of your attention on yourself and you don't care about
providing for others but that can also be explained by a hierarchy
of instincts which goes procreate, protect, and then provide.
Neither can a man or woman provide when they experience being under
attack nor when they think they have to protect. So in 2020, men
are having a difficult time providing for women because they're in
protect mode with the threat of COVID-19, our economy, and our
wellbeing. If a man is not providing, I tell women, 'Just look
around; what is he protecting you from? What is the threat he
perceives and what is he protecting you from?" - Alison
Armstrong
How We Can Win In Love
"I'm always teaching women, instead of asking, 'Does he love
me?' ask 'How does he love me?' Instead of asking, 'Does he support
me?' ask 'How does he support me?' You will live a completely
different life if you're looking for how the thing you want is
happening instead of checking off 'Yes' or 'No.' If we're looking
for 'How' then we can see it in a rainbow of expressions instead of
'Does he or doesn't he?' and it also allows us to build on
something in the relationship, create awareness for what we love
about each other, and let them know how else they can love us in
different ways." - Alison Armstrong
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About Alison Armstrong
Alison
Armstrong, author, educator, and creator of the widely
acclaimed "Understanding Men" and "Understanding Women"
transformational online series, asks the question: "What if no one
is misbehaving -- including you?”
She explores the good reasons behind the behavior of men and
women such as fundamental differences in the ways we think, act and
communicate. She offers simple, partnership-based, solutions to
improve our communication and intimacy by honoring ourselves and
others. She's known for her insight, sense of humor and ability to
articulate the human experience and predicament of gender.
Alison Armstrong's Mission
Alison Armstrong is a best-selling author, sought after speaker,
and a master thought leader. She's the founder of PAX Programs, a
mission-driven company passionate about transforming the way men
and women relate to themselves and each other and the ultimate
source for understanding men and women.

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